This call had begun to do for me what the best antianxiety medicine and therapy had not been able to, which was pull me out of the whirlpool and see the beginning of a way out of my sadness. I am only 44. Would you be so kind as to help me with this? totally adrift and so very lost. Removing him from life support was excrutiatingly painful & remains so to this day. The only reason I’m here is for our daughter. People who haven’t lost a spouse or partner just dont” get it”, just as you said. Little by little, his own written words charted his healing process. I am so sad that my husband is not coming back. They ask about my husband's specifics. Robert I am sorry for your loss. Sorry for your loss. It’s been four years in December and as I write this the tears still stream down my face. I later found out she was addicted to prescription drugs. But right now I’m finding that hard to understand . It’s a very difficult journey but it can be travelled. I am sorry for your loss. Now I don’t know what to do. I’m so sorry for your loss. All my best to you as well! I am so stricken with my own grief that I can’t hardly help them with theirs. Grief therapy groups worked for me too. My heart breaks for you. Hi, your post really touched me deeply. I loved music but one yr on I dare listen to music that sets me of breaking my heart as words are unbearably heartbreaking. My soul mate, love of my life, developed Lewy Body dementia five years ago, so I slowly lost him as I knew him before. */. It has been 10 years but the pain is still there. Now that he has died I have gone right back to who I was before. Accidentally met someone 3 months after his death who in 11 months took me for everything I had. We want him back with us even if he's in a worse place. I thought it would also help with the lonliness. Her mother remarried and had one more child, a boy named Patrick, whom Lisa adored. I have no one and wonder how I can live without him. I am grateful for my health and at least owning a home to sell even though it needs work to even sell it. I am hurting so bad and trying to take care of my mother. My husband and soulmate of 27 years passed away on 3/4/17 after fighting cancer for a year. we lost was not perfect though the memories become almost always very positive.. Don’t forget that you worked hard at your previous relationship so put the effort into You don’t necessarily need to join a grief support group for widows, but it’s important to get the help and hope you need by reaching out to others. It started on Christmas Eve, when we flew to Seattle to see Peter's brother Rob. I feel so devastated and lonely without him. I don’t think if you sell your house you will lose all the memories. I thought I did it within 5 years, but I didn’t marry again until 20 years after my wife passed. (I was in the minority of Male attendees). That was back in 2012. Maybe it will help you somehow. Okay, the astrologer conceded; maybe he was my "destiny." I pray you find a path through your grief that is not difficult and will help your smile return. It seemed that they were trying to tell me to let him go b/c nothing helped for more than a few hours, which was why I switched him to comfort measures & allowed extubation. How do I feel right now? In my isolation, I made choices I never would've made before. I wish you peace, joy, contentment and happiness. I am so very sorry you’re in so much pain. As time went on we realized that my love, my partner, my best friend had been suffering from deep depression since he was young, but never showed it (until the end). I was married to my husband 53 years before his death in 2017…3 years later I still miss and cry for him..the emotional roller coaster goes on and on…I still work to stay busy…I am an RN but I don’t want to take care of anyone but me.. So unexpected, the shock and pain of his sudden disappearance. Now is not the best time to consider a new dog, as I am not sure where I will be relocating to. Vince, can we both meet? Ten years after that phone call with the astrologer, Peter was in a bed at New York-Presbyterian Hospital, where he'd been for three months. I am so broken and all I want to do is hide from the world. It doesn’t happen. I am so sorry that this has happened to you. Terrified and exhilarated, I said yes. We'd been on the phone for a little over an hour. The flight attendants were pouring out Aquarius water. Dear Susan, The one day up and then next down sound like grief attacks. Your husband’s spirit and soul will always be with you, and he is resting in peace. Your recommendation to take time to grieve seems wise. I sell real estate so meeting people is imperative, as I still need to work. I can barely drive in the car without breaking down remembering when we was at any location of where I currently drive. i am finding grief is a strange emotion. To my soul. He said he had indigestion. RIchard. I am a young widow, but I am also ready to join him in the afterlife. Sam pastored for 33 years. I kept waking up everyday, hating most days too. The social worker on the palliative care floor was very helpful in directing me to resources and people. I have turned away from the church. Well, I can, but my messages will bounce. So I decided to post this, because, as you, I sit here alone, trying to deal with his things which I am, and I too literally just want to run, go somewhere and let somewbody else HELP me do this from a distance. Thank you for being here, and sharing your difficult and sad question. It is totally different when you lose a husband. My next challenge is my mixed feelings. It is okay to feel pain when you think about what has happened. The pain I feel is overwhelming. I don’t know the circumstances of his death but I hope you get the closure you need. Hope it helps. Because I was with everyone I wanted to talk to, I left my cell phone in my bag. On May 19 with family and friends beside my son and I, I had to sign the papers to have him taken off life support. I still wonder how I made it the past year without him. I lived alone 1 yr after my husband passed so I know what it is like. Your in my prayers. My wife was only 38 she had a heart defect we found out about 5 years ago. I’m glad you’re here, Joanne – I don’t mind you if you vent! The core person who I was has returned. How can I live without such deep love and joy? My husband died suddenly in a kayaking accident April 16th 2017. Books like this can help you survive the worst of your grief and offer companionship for your journey. Angela.